A while back, I agreed to take part in today’s blog hop to celebrate International Day Against Homophobia, Biphobia and Transphobia. All over the world, people are speaking out against hate and
Most people who are opposed to true equality aren’t doing so out of fear. They don’t experience debilitating anxiety when faced with the sight of two men, two women, a transgender person, etc. They feel anger, loathing, hate.
When a claustrophobic person walks into the room for an MRI, their heart races, their palms sweat, their mouth goes dry. They fear being in an enclosed space, to the point it can cripple them.
An agorophobe doesn’t leave the house because the thought of walking outside makes them want to curl up in the fetal position and cry.
Someone who suffers from aerophobia wants to vomit at the thought of flying. If they have to fly, they spend the entire time obsessing over everything that could go wrong while they’re in the air. They often have to medicate themselves to get through the ordeal.
Homophobes aren’t scared. They’re hateful, spiteful, often ignorant people. They don’t want the world to change because “this is how it’s always been” even if that’s not the case at all. If anything, many people are Metathesiophobic, meaning they fear change. They don’t want to consider a world that is different from what they’re used to.
We’re nearly fifty years removed from Loving vs. Virginia, which was the supreme courts case legalizing interracial marriage in all states. That means that pretty much everyone today knows someone who lived in a world where a black man couldn’t legally marry a white woman. It wasn’t fear that kept them separate until then, it was ignorance and hate.
It’s up to every single person to do their part to tell the world we won’t accept HATE. We need to teach our children that the only way to fight hate is through promoting acceptance. They need to see, through our actions, that it doesn’t matter who a person loves as long as they have a good heart and everyone is happy in their relationships.
My daughter has done a lot to make me proud in her almost ten years, but there’s one moment I will never forget. The day same-sex marriage became legal in our state, she asked me why that was such a big deal. To some, it may sound strange that I was proud of her for asking such a question, but she couldn’t understand it because, in her mind, it shouldn’t matter. It shouldn’t be news that two men or two women can marry one another. She doesn’t see anatomical differences, or the gender on a birth certificate as a measure of a person’s worth. As far as she’s concerned, everyone deserves to be happy for who they are. And that is why I’m proud of her.
Some day, I hope most people in the world will think like her, and do so vocally. I pray that 50 years from now, there will be no more fights about whether or not one human is allowed to love another human without restrictions and legislation.
To help celebrate the world coming together to fight against hate and ignorance, I’m offering choice of any backlist title to one reader for commenting on my blog. Be sure to check back on May 25th, when the winner will be announced!